Argh! I'm so frustrated. Why doesn't anyone listen to what I say? Or maybe I'm too strong in wanting others to follow my way. All I can do is shrug. And also, I've learned that there's no use in arguing, or even to reason. Most of the time, the best way is to just shut up.
I only have 1 thing to say. You need to think hard and reflect. Do you see a pattern here? Are you constantly frustrated cause others are not listening? Do you always feel "geram" cause people do not want to do something your way? So, is the problem at all those other people, or is it you?
ReplyDeleteShutting up may not be the best thing to do. However, shouting (so that others will listen) is not the way either. How other people think is out of your control. Who are you to try to control what they think or do? The best we can do is tell the person (nicely) about what we think. And if, in the end, the person did not do as we advise, then let it be. So what? It's not the end of the world that they did not follow what we advice. Are we so sure that the advice that we gave is the best anyways?
Think of it the other way around. Are there times when others try to reason and advice you about something, and you end up shutting them out as well?
There's also a good (and nice) way to argue and reason with others. If you see others are not listening when you try to argue or reason with them, do you think there might be a problem with your approach? It's all about communication skills and how to approach things. You can always reason and argue, but it's HOW you do it that matters.
I am here not to criticize, but to advice (and voice my opinion) that sometimes you have to take a step back (take a deep breath; think calmly) and see if the problem exists within yourself.